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An Ideal Wife:
Once a person visited Rasool Allah (saws) and said, I have a wife who gives me a warm welcome upon seeing me, and when I leave she walks me to the door to see me off, she comforts me in my difficult times. If I am worried about lack of sustenance then she reassures me that Allah (swt) has already promised our sustenance (and we should rely on His mercy), and if she finds me concerned about hereafter she says you should not be anxious about the future as our Lord (swt) will protect us (as He is our best caretaker). Upon hearing this Rasool Allah (saws) said there are (special) workers of Allah (swt) and your wife is amongst them. She will get half the reward of a martyr. Manlah Yahzar-ul-Faqih, Kitab-ul-Nikah, tradition no.4369
Never Marry for Wealth or Beauty:
Hashaam bin Hakim has narrated from Imam Jafar-e-Sadiq (as) that Imam (as) said, If someone would marry a lady for the sake of her beauty or wealth, will not be successful in getting any benefit. But if he would marry her for her devoutness then Allah (swt) will bless him with both – plentiful sustenance and enhancement in her beauty. Manlah Yahzar-ul-Faqih, Kitab-ul-Nikah, tradition no.4380
Searching for a Wife to Be:
Imam Ali (as) said: ‘You should not be looking for a wife to be but rather than a mother of your (quality) children’. As Imam Ali (as) asked, his brother Hazrat Aqeel (as) (who was expert on linage of Arab tribes) to search for a lady for him, from a brave, healthy, intelligent and faithful tribe so that Imam Ali (as) could have sons of exceptional qualities - those were indeed Hazrat Abbas (as) and his brothers who sacrificed their lives in Karbala.
Salat and Prayers Prior to Marraige:
Mussna bin Walid quotes from Abi Baseer who says Imam Jafar-e-Sadiq (as) asked from me, ‘Do you know what to do when you intend to get married?’ I replied may I be your ransom, I do not know, Imam (as) said, ‘When one intends to get married then he should offer Two-Rakat Salat, then praise Allah (swt) and recite the following prayers; "O Allah (swt) I intend to get married, please reward me a lady who is the most honourable and the most careful in protecting herself along with my wealth. She would prove lucky for me in receiving your blessings and sustenance. And award me a virtuous son from her who would be praise worthy during my lifetime and honourable successor after my death". Manlah Yahzar-ul-Faqih, Kitab-ul-Nikah, tradition no.4387 |
